Z has an extremely difficult time decoding. He makes the same mistakes over and over again, and doesn’t seem to learn from them. A word will appear twice on the same page, and he doesn’t recognize it the second time he sees it.
School is going, well, how can it be going any way other than badly if he can’t even read the work plan that he’s supposed to be doing?
Breaks my heart.
Focus and follow-through? There’s little to none. He seems to mostly just wander around, trying to look like he’s engaged in work, but really he’s just staring off into space.
And yes, he’s eating gluten and dairy at B’s house.
(Gosh, do you think there’s a link there????????????)
Well, maybe if we can get him formally “diagnosed” with ADHD (which I think is a somewhat dubious diagnosis in the first place, hence the scare quotes, but that’s a can of worms for a different day), we can finally force B to adhere to the GFCF diet, as gluten and casein are known factors in causing ADHD symptoms.
(Gosh, really???????????? Like we haven’t gone down this path about a thousand times before!)
It’s infuriating. And preventable.
Maybe it isn’t really the diet at all, maybe it’s just being in B’s care that causes Z to fall into a well of learned helplessness, because god knows that’s B’s only way of being in this world.
Ok, so the problem is also, of course, the school environment. There are good kids in that class, and a few obnoxious ones. The teacher is very solid, but she has 24 other kids to attend to.
And Z is at the bottom of the pile, academically. And that has to suck.
For the other kids, I imagine they find him pitiable or contemptible. And that has to suck.
If he could only read, things would go so much better for him!!!
Yes, one obvious answer is to homeschool. And I’m all for that. Would be all for it if it weren’t for B. Z is better being at school than with B full-time for days. Period. B is maybe capable of teaching him how to tie knots, set up a tent, make campfires and cook on them, and paddle a canoe, and while these are all valuable skills, Z needs more (and they’re mostly not that useful in suburban CA). I mean for chrissakes, B can barely read and can only spell at the level of a slow-ish 2nd grader. And he hasn’t a clue about basic science facts, including the fact that our sun is a star! In other words, academically, B and Z are at approximately the same level. And it seems like B is making little to no progress on his own stuff. And B has 50% custody. So. Now what?
I don’t know. But suggestions would be appreciated.