I got an email response from Z’s teacher yesterday concerning the act of bullying in which another kid told my kid to *”run away from home and kill yourself”.* (details of the incident here: https://plus.google.com/u/0/118373542810022111457/posts/XNphMD6pL81 )
She said she had talked to both Z and the bully, and the bully denies anything like that ever happened ever. Given that the incident happened a while ago, there’s little she can do about it directly, now, except to encourage Z to tell her immediately if something like that happens again, and she encouraged us to come in and talk about it with her anytime.
This is not exactly what I was hoping for… but given that this is just email, I’m not going to write her off just yet. We pick Z up from school this afternoon, so this will be the first time I’ve seen his teacher since learning of the bullying.
While I find her response understandable, I do not find it acceptable. I learned from another parent that she has heard boys in the class use horrible language, “rude sexual stuff”, as she put it. In a 2-3 classroom. Montessori. These kids have had Montessori classrooms, with Montessori teaching methods, with Montessori values, their whole school lives, 4 years of it, K through 3. The school is in a University town. Many of the kids in the school, and especially in the Montessori program, as I understand it, have parents who work at the UCD (my sample size is small, though, so this may not be an accurate statement).
This is completely unacceptable to me. Kids at that age with Montessori backgrounds should know by now that you don’t have to like someone, but you do have to respect them. Period. I know, they must be receiving more powerful messages at home, or on the ball fields, or whatever… but if the most important core message of your school’s program is being consistently ignored by students, what’s the frickin’ point of the school?