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Friends vs. kids’ birthdays.


I’ve been thinking about friends and friendship quite a bit these last couple of weeks.  One of the main reasons is that Zener’s birthday is coming up and I’m not sure who to invite from his class, if anyone.  To the best of my knowledge, he hasn’t been invited to one birthday party for kids in his class this year.  Not one.

He’s had invitations from other kids who weren’t in his class.  He’s had plenty of invitations from kids here at the apartment complex.

But not one from any kid in his class.

He doesn’t seem to notice or care, but I do, and it breaks my heart.

So I need to let go of that.  The 30 kids in his class do not constitute the totality of the world of kids.  He does have friends, some very close ones, here at home.

And heck, that means his birthday party can be so much simpler if we don’t have to invite a ton of kids!  Score!

I’ve been trying to work out how we can have his traditional birthday in the park, which used to be for a bunch of the kids in his class, but each year attendance dribbled down until last year there were only 3 other kids at his birthday.  I was getting so worried about having the party in the park and my ex- girlfriend showing up uninvited and having to deal with all of that nonsense.

The solution is so simple and elegant – no party in the park!  We’ll just have a little do here at the apartments and invite all the kids who live here and a couple of kids from his class who probably won’t be able or willing to come anyway.

Everything’s shiny, captain!