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On the benefits of afterschool activities

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Karate class continues to go well!  They have started a module on Philippine stick fighting techniques in a style called cinco teros, or in their tradition, senco teros.  Z-boy has been working very hard and improving greatly in focus, concentration, control, and technique.  It’s so incredible to watch him blooming!

Sinawali

Sinawali (yes, it’s blurry to obscure identities)

I hope he can link this into other areas of his life.  He’s been working so hard, and he loves it, and he’s so excited to progress and move on to new, more complicated, and therefore more awesome techniques and skills.  He wants – really wants – to earn his next belt.  He’s also very worried about being able to do well enough in school to get his teacher’s to sign off on his belt promotion.  He thinks it will take him all year to do it.

So self-confidence is growing, but not yet in the area of school.  I had hoped to catch one of his favorite instructors to have him give Z a pep talk, but he was off this week.

So my plan for this school year:  make sure he has plenty of after school programs scheduled for when he’s at his dad’s house.  While he’s at mine, we’ll concentrate on karate, choir, and homework (as his dad isn’t really capable of helping him with writing and math).

For one thing, having afternoon/evening activities reduces the likelihood that the ex-girlfriend will be able to visit him (his dad allows visits, against my wishes).

But perhaps more importantly, it will surround Z-boy with different types of people, many potential positive role models.  And friendships with kids who share his interests and lift him up.

And of course there’s the opportunity to build skills and confidence in himself in a relaxed and friendly atmosphere, and he can carry that confidence into his school day.

I don’t want to “over-schedule” him, but at the same time, I want him to see the wider world, and to feel he has a place in it.

So I’m going to get him into 4-H, possibly a drama and or dance class, possibly gymnastics, possibly fencing, possibly violin lessons, possibly robotics, possibly computer programming.  Not all at the same time, though.  But there are so many potential avenues for growth!  I’m going to try to make this the best year yet!